OH NO! YOU SAY HE'S "IMPERFECT"?!?!?!?!

From The Angry Dad:

Advice to dispose of an imperfect husband

Some people are under the false impression that shrinks and other advice-givers try to help save marriages. Another false impression is that divorce is caused by men abandoning their families.

This is anecdotal evidence, but look at a newspaper advice letter:

Dear Annie: I was with my ex-husband for 18 years before I divorced him. We have three children, and he hasn't been the best father or husband. Lately, however, he has been nice and comes around to visit the kids. I appreciate the fact that he is doing this, but he is now saying things to me that make me uncomfortable.

He slept on my couch a couple of nights because he stayed late with the kids when I was out. But now he is coming every day and staying over every night. We often end up sleeping together.

I told him to stop coming around with the expectation that we are getting back together, because we are not. But he refuses to listen, and now he has asked me to marry him again. He won't take "no" for an answer. What should I do? — Think I've Been Too Nice

Too nice? No, that is not her problem. She is too mean.

A lot of women would love to have a man like that. But this one divorced him because of some unspecified imperfections. And now her main complaint is that he loves her and wants to save the family.

If we had a father-custody rule in the USA, divorces like this would not happen.

No, the advice is not to save the marriage. The advice is to limit contact with him and make sure he stays divorced.

OH NO! Every Woman Not Working!

Oh my God. What a horrific factoid. I know I'll lose sleep tonight.


First off, the unemployment rate for 250 MILLION Americans has SOARED over the past 4 years. And of the, 3-5% (in reality, much higher) increase in the number of unemployed Americans, a whole 450k, since 2008, are women!?!?!? Does this include women who quit their jobs because they were being laid off or had their hours reduced, etc., and simply quit and never returned to work, because staying home and eliminating their child care costs actually netted them an INCREASE in family income?


How about men? Oh... HOW CAN YOU EVEN ASK THAT!?!?!?  WE'RE NOT DONE WORRYING ABOUT THE WOMEN!!!!


Well the men have taken THE WORST of the unemployment crisis. They have been laid off in far greater numbers than women for longer than 4 years. Their options? Well, they can stay home and be a house-dad. In that case, if they get divorced (and their wife will almost certainly despise them for not being bread-winners), they will STILL lose TOTAL custody of their children, despite being the "primary care giver" as defined by the courts, and of course an outrageous child support award equal to nearly half of any unemployment they receive will promptly be awarded by the feminazi-owned and operated branch of the Judiciary known as family courts.


So FAR more men are worse off than women, and if separated or divorced, have basically nothing and so can offer another mate nothing and figure to not drop out not only from the workforce, but out of society as well. They move in with their parents, commit suicide, or live in a condemned basement, depressed and/or homicidal. They become shadows and ghosts.

They vanish.


BUT LET'S WORRY ABOUT THOSE 450,000 WOMEN WHO ARE UNEMPLOYED.


HOLY SHIT, THEY HAVE ME CONCERNED!

Women: Just Keep Worrying About Us

Look at this crap.

http://www.npr.org/2012/10/11/162726227/op-ed-women-stop-trying-to-be-perfect?ft=1&f=5

Its refreshing that the interviewee - some college president (this makes her a very big deal, and her opinions as well) - is saying that, guess what? When you work 60 hours a week, you're going to make sacrifices elsewhere in life, especially children; and by that she means, YOU WILL NOT SEE THEM AND THIS WILL MAKE THEM MAD.

No shit, Sherlock. You needed a Ph.D. for that one?

Give me a break.

I've seen a million of these articles.

And not once do any of the them say, LOOK, THE STONE COLD FACT IS, MEN ONCE DOMINATED THE WORKFORCE BUT THIS ALLOWED WOMEN TO STAY HOME AND THE KIDS, THE WOMEN, AND THE FAMILY WERE ALL BETTER OFF FOR IT.

Yes, some very bright women were a little frustrated, I'm sure. And thankfully, today, with technology, I'm sure they can get around that a bit. Also, as pointed out by the interviewee in the link above, one's extended family is very important and they can pitch in with child care. Of course, the old adage, "It takes a village to raise a child." was coined about a hundred years ago, but thankfully we have a modern, has-it-all, breadwinning woman to explain to us what our grandparents figured out, long before any of us were born. The village is dead, no one trusts their neighbors anymore and the modern family is shallow and materialistic.

Amen for academia, for women, and for modern social thought. Now let's all gather around and invent a new way of solving old problems in a way that is far inferior to how they were solved in the past.

Oh and as for men being afraid of "saying the wrong thing?" as described below? I've got something to say to you: Shut the fuck up and get out of the fucking way. I'm the man and your the woman. Want me to be a man? Make money? Make decisions? Then fucking let me and quite arguing with me about everything; I know you're right sometimes. Also, I don't want to come home to a tired, fat, wife. No man does. Ask around. So stay in shape, please. Or else I'll quit my job and you can support my lazy, fat ass.

Sound rude? Or maybe just realistic.

"Caller: We worked out a schedule where we had someone come into the home when I was working very early in the morning for the airline business. As my children grew and after I had taken care of an elderly mother-in-law who passed away, I then went full-time into a crazy career. But I think it's important that we solicit more participation from men. I think that men feel so disenchanted with relationships because they - we don't need them. Pretty soon we're just going to create our own babies.
If we just would allow men to take more responsibility, we wouldn't feel so stressed. If we had a decision in our families that we weren't going to live on both incomes or we were going to save at least 50 percent of the second income, it would be so much easier for us to survive as a family network. I believe that women can have everything, but they must time it correctly and they must not make their children sacrifice for the fact that they want to have fulfillment or monies or the big flat-screen TV. And that is my opinion.

(LAUGHTER) [laughter? W-T-F?]

CONAN: All right. Thanks very much for the phone call. Debora Spar, I think you would probably agree that men need to be part of the package.

[Gee, REALLY? The guy you married and took sperm from to make the family children ACTUALLY IS PART OF THE PACKAGE? Whoa, THAT'S GENEROUS OF YOU!]

SPAR: Yeah. I entirely agree that men need to be part of the package, and I'm actually pretty optimistic about this. I think most men really want to be part of the package. They want to support their wives or their partners or their sisters. They want to support their girls and their boys. And as one of my students was saying to me the other day, I think part of the problem is that men feel that they can't be part of this conversation, that they somehow have been boxed out of it, that they don't necessarily have the language. They're very worried about saying the wrong thing."