Women: Just Keep Worrying About Us

Look at this crap.

http://www.npr.org/2012/10/11/162726227/op-ed-women-stop-trying-to-be-perfect?ft=1&f=5

Its refreshing that the interviewee - some college president (this makes her a very big deal, and her opinions as well) - is saying that, guess what? When you work 60 hours a week, you're going to make sacrifices elsewhere in life, especially children; and by that she means, YOU WILL NOT SEE THEM AND THIS WILL MAKE THEM MAD.

No shit, Sherlock. You needed a Ph.D. for that one?

Give me a break.

I've seen a million of these articles.

And not once do any of the them say, LOOK, THE STONE COLD FACT IS, MEN ONCE DOMINATED THE WORKFORCE BUT THIS ALLOWED WOMEN TO STAY HOME AND THE KIDS, THE WOMEN, AND THE FAMILY WERE ALL BETTER OFF FOR IT.

Yes, some very bright women were a little frustrated, I'm sure. And thankfully, today, with technology, I'm sure they can get around that a bit. Also, as pointed out by the interviewee in the link above, one's extended family is very important and they can pitch in with child care. Of course, the old adage, "It takes a village to raise a child." was coined about a hundred years ago, but thankfully we have a modern, has-it-all, breadwinning woman to explain to us what our grandparents figured out, long before any of us were born. The village is dead, no one trusts their neighbors anymore and the modern family is shallow and materialistic.

Amen for academia, for women, and for modern social thought. Now let's all gather around and invent a new way of solving old problems in a way that is far inferior to how they were solved in the past.

Oh and as for men being afraid of "saying the wrong thing?" as described below? I've got something to say to you: Shut the fuck up and get out of the fucking way. I'm the man and your the woman. Want me to be a man? Make money? Make decisions? Then fucking let me and quite arguing with me about everything; I know you're right sometimes. Also, I don't want to come home to a tired, fat, wife. No man does. Ask around. So stay in shape, please. Or else I'll quit my job and you can support my lazy, fat ass.

Sound rude? Or maybe just realistic.

"Caller: We worked out a schedule where we had someone come into the home when I was working very early in the morning for the airline business. As my children grew and after I had taken care of an elderly mother-in-law who passed away, I then went full-time into a crazy career. But I think it's important that we solicit more participation from men. I think that men feel so disenchanted with relationships because they - we don't need them. Pretty soon we're just going to create our own babies.
If we just would allow men to take more responsibility, we wouldn't feel so stressed. If we had a decision in our families that we weren't going to live on both incomes or we were going to save at least 50 percent of the second income, it would be so much easier for us to survive as a family network. I believe that women can have everything, but they must time it correctly and they must not make their children sacrifice for the fact that they want to have fulfillment or monies or the big flat-screen TV. And that is my opinion.

(LAUGHTER) [laughter? W-T-F?]

CONAN: All right. Thanks very much for the phone call. Debora Spar, I think you would probably agree that men need to be part of the package.

[Gee, REALLY? The guy you married and took sperm from to make the family children ACTUALLY IS PART OF THE PACKAGE? Whoa, THAT'S GENEROUS OF YOU!]

SPAR: Yeah. I entirely agree that men need to be part of the package, and I'm actually pretty optimistic about this. I think most men really want to be part of the package. They want to support their wives or their partners or their sisters. They want to support their girls and their boys. And as one of my students was saying to me the other day, I think part of the problem is that men feel that they can't be part of this conversation, that they somehow have been boxed out of it, that they don't necessarily have the language. They're very worried about saying the wrong thing."