Domestic Violence in the Relationship

Performed by her.

Of course, she sees no problem at all with this dysfunctional mess; good thing he didn't call the cops when she pushed him; he would've been the one arrested:

I wasn't invited

Print | Comments (987)Posted by Meredith Goldstein  February 13, 2013 08:13 AM

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I don't know where this letter writer is from. So let's say ... Hingham.

Q:To make a long story short, my boyfriend Luke and I have been together for nearly two years, we've been living together for a year and a half, and we definitely have our problems. There has been cheating on both ends (one time each), he interrupts me a lot, I have a temper, and once I pushed him because he ditched me on New Year's Eve. Despite this, we have worked through the majority of our issues, and when things are good, they are *really* good. We both know that we are going to spend the rest of our lives together and intend on getting engaged later this year.

That being said, he has complained about me to his friends to the point where I am not welcome around them. He sees these people on a weekly basis, ditched me this past Christmas/New Year’s Eve to see them, and has told me he didn't want me around them until our relationship had improved. Well, now that it has, I have been making a real effort to get involved with his group. I apologized to his friends for any hard feelings or misunderstandings in the past, and made it clear that having the support of our family and friends is important to me. His friends seemed to be very receptive and I thought everything was cleared up.

Unfortunately, my boyfriend is at a wedding for his best friend -- the ring leader of the group -- to which I was not invited. I understand not being invited, as invitations went out before we had our little talk, but last night my boyfriend was told that there is an after-party at the groom's house, and the bride doesn't want me there because I'm not her friend. I think it is incredibly rude not to include me in this, as I am in a long-term, committed relationship with one of the groomsmen (and we live together!). This is ridiculous. We're all in our mid-late 20s and early 30s. How am I expected to be friends with these people if I'm constantly being told I'm not welcome, all because my boyfriend complained about me too much? He refused to press the issue, because he didn't want to cause drama on their wedding day, but if someone was that disrespectful to Luke, I wouldn't even *go* to the event! Despite some of the things that Luke has said/done to me, my friends know where the line is. I might vent to them, but they know not to speak ill of him in front of me. How can I make my boyfriend see that his friends are being disrespectful and that it is *not* appropriate for him to let his friends act that way toward me?

– Accepting Friends