This Margaret Lyons makes her point so POORLY, its hard to even know what it is. I THINK her bottom line is "women should demand to be treated better."
And in that, I wholeheartedly agree. That said, some women get off on being mistreated, while others just have REALLY AWFUL self-esteem. Men that like to mistreat women don't really care which you have, or so I surmise. I really don't know.
In any event, if you, man or woman, reader, are being mistreated, THEN WALK AWAY AND FIND SOMEONE WHO TREATS YOU BETTER. Why the fuck would you accept mistreatment over and over and over again, and then claim only the person mistreating you can correct it!?!?!? Further, how is the person mistreating you supposed to know THAT YOU DON'T LIKE IT OR WANT IT? I'll tell you that I don't enjoy pain, but I like to work out and that involves pain. Some things people follow through on regardless of what they say about it.
Ms. Lyons whole "gray rape" argument is TOTALLY BOGUS AND NONSENSICAL. If you don't want to be there, ladies, SCREAM OUT the word "No!," push away your partner, march out of the room (armed with a weapon if necessary), and NEVER GO BACK.
Unless your partner is a real FELON-CLASS RAPIST and not a man who thinks you're playing games with him, he will BACK OFF AND/OR TRY FINDING OUT WHAT'S WRONG.
So how many real rapists are there in the world - few, I would imagine. Its a VERY ugly and disgusting thing to do; THAT'S WHY ITS A FELONY. How many jerks are there in the world? Millions, I'm guessing. But the REAL question is this: how many girls with low self-esteem are there in the world? Answer: WAY TOO MANY, and all of the women mentioned below qualify. They all have the same disease: the thought pattern of: I deserve whatever this man in front of me tells me I deserve. This is HORRIBLY wrong as you are GIVING SOMEONE ELSE COMPLETE POWER OVER YOU. This is YOUR FAULT, NOT HIS.
Sexual mistreatment, as described below isn't the fault of some "culture." Its one person giving someone else total power to mistreat them and then failing to refuse when it happens. PERIOD. IT IS SIMPLE, NOT COMPLEX, confused ladies of the interwebz.
Any man will tell you; when dating or dealing with a girl/woman, you DO NOT do what she says unless she backs it up with actions. Much of what women DO is at ODDS with what they SAY.
TAKE A LESSON, MS. LYONS, YOU IMBECILE.