My bewilderment, er, comments, to follow:
Meanwhile I have not seen our kids since March 6, because my ex-wife refuses to permit it.From the angry dad again.
My ex-wife is asking to make her sole custody permanent, because the supervised visitation is too much trouble for her. She said that if she had permanent sole custody with visitation entirely at her discretion, then she would be willing to let me attend one of the kids's soccer games, provided that I was accompanied by a visitation supervisor of her choice. The judge said that she believed my ex-wife's arguments that she want me involved in the kids' lives, but she is worried that there might be no visitation at all if my ex-wife gets what she wants.
Jesus, what else is he supposed to be but an angry dad? Listen to that shit! The man's ex-wife refuses to allow him to see his own children, THE CHILDREN HE DUTIFULLY FINANCIALLY SUPPORTS, and what is the result?
Not one damn thing. The judge in the matter did nothing. According to angry dad the judge said "that she believed my ex-wife's arguments that she want me involved in the kids' lives..."
Pause right there a sec. Why would anyone believe that? His ex-wife is not letting him see the kids RIGHT NOW even though the court has ordered visitation with the kids.
So everyone blink and clear your head and listen. The court ordered a divorced man visit his kids. The children's mother denied him that right. What happened? Nothing.
Lesson? MOM OVER-RULES THE COURT'S ORDERS.
Mom's next move? Not obeying the court, if anything.
Dad's next move? What move can he have? Appealing to the court doesn't matter, as the court's orders are not followed by his ex-wife, who simply just makes up excuses why she won't allow him to see his own kids. So if she denies him visitation and the court does nothing to enforce visitation, then what good is a visitation order?
Answer: it isn't.
So what if dad decides he's not going to financially support children he does not see?
Answer: His wages can be legally garnished by the state and he can be thrown in jail.
Do you wonder why there is a angry, angry, angry father's movement, dear reader?
I SHOULD HOPE NOT.
Lastly, mom's offer is:
"She said that if she had permanent sole custody with visitation entirely at her discretion, then she would be willing to let me attend one of the kids's soccer games, provided that I was accompanied by a visitation supervisor of her choice."
This isn't even a joke. It isn't even a bad joke. ONE of the kids's [sic] soccer games? With a "visitation supervisor of her choice." What the Hell is a visitation supervisor? And why is one needed for a father to WATCH a soccer game and maybe pat his kids on the back afterwards? Is this man a monster or something? Seriously. Is this man some kind of drug-addled crackpot who likes to play with guns and matches? What possible reason could there be to entertain such a request? Why did the judge not say, "Forget it. There will be no visitation supervisor and there will be no mom-allowing-dad-a-soccer-game-provided-he-kisses-her-ass. I'm in charge here and dad is seeing the kids every other weekend and that's it. Done. Don't jerk me around or I will strip you of all custody rights, period."
Why wasn't that said? Who is this judge? She sounds like an employee working for mom. How do you even take this judge seriously? Mom wants FULL DISCRETION with dad's visits AND she wants him to be humiliated by a "visitation supervisor." Look, people. This man is a dad of 14 years. The kids are relatively speaking, healthy and normal, it sounds like. No supervisor is warranted, period. The ex-wife here is simply being an asshole. She wants her ex-husband humiliated and she wants him embarrassed and she wants it done publicly.
Why is that idea EVEN BEING ENTERTAINED by a grown, adult human being? There is NO CAUSE, NO EVIDENCE, NOTHING to sustain that idea even be considered.
In light of such things, the entire legal process here must be labeled a complete farce, a pathetic side show that does not intend, EVER, to consider the rights of the father.
My only advice to men in this land is not to have children. I'm afraid it can be no other way until serious family court reforms are taken up and passed into law. The current state of family law is ABYSMAL.