The funny part is she probably has no children of her own, yet can't stop talking about the responsibilities of parents. And how you cannot avoid YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES. Her tone is one of condescension.
Hey Terry, in a free country, who the fuck are you to tell me what my responsibilities are and what they are not!?!?!?
Her website says she is a "respected lawyer." and suggests is somehow an appropriate authority on the subject of parenting and parental responsibilities. Is that a joke? There are no respected lawyers. And most lawyers are HORRIBLE parents, mainly due to the long hours they work and the fact they must be an asshole to do their job, no sarcasm intended.
She then goes on to offer her opinion on "deadbeat dads."
Terry, I've paid over 100 grand in child support. My ex has not worked full-time or made over $25,000/year since we split up. She essentially refuses to support my son or contribute to him in any financial way. She lives off 3 different men and is essentially living as a partially retired layabout at the age of 34. She has a $60,000 college education. She hasn't worked full-time for 10 years.
Terry? Get fucked sideways running, madame.
In his article, Lu cites five common ways that parents try to get out of paying child support--and explains why they do not work. He starts with moving out of state. Doing so does not negate child support obligations, as the court orders pertaining to the payment of child support can be transferred from one state to another. Unemployment and bankruptcy are two other situations that will not cancel scheduled child support payments (although some judges may make arrangements for reduced payments in special circumstances).
In addition to these three situations, parents may try to use their relationship with their ex to get out of paying their child support. Lu notes that joint custody will not result in reduced child support--nor will a physical absence. Regardless of if parents see their children, they are financially responsible for them.
Terry Fixel, a lawyer who practices family and appellate law in the state of Florida, believes that these laws protect children.
"All parents have a duty to support their children," commented Terry Fixel. "You can divorce your spouse, but not your children. Regardless of your circumstances, you must comply with court orders for support until they are modified or terminated by the Court or your obligations are satisfied."
Of course, judges can make exceptions in extenuating situations and child support rulings can be overturned in light of new circumstances; however, this rarely occurs. The bottom line of Terry Fixel's message--and that of the Reuters article--is that parents are responsible for the financial security of their children after divorce. Although the title of Lu's article plays into the phrase "deadbeat dad," these rules apply to both mothers and fathers and have been developed and enforced in the best interest of children caught in the middle of divorce.
Terry Fixel hopes that her statement will help parents understand how important it is to uphold their financial obligations to their children.
Terry Fixel is a Florida-based attorney who practices appellate and family law. Since 1979, she has provided legal services to her community. Terry Fixel earned her degree at the University of Miami Law School and has since retained her status as a "Member in Good Standing" with the Florida Bar. Some of the cases that Terry Fixel takes on include divorce, domestic violence, child custody, child abduction, paternity litigation, and emancipation. She also handles appellate cases.